About NVC

Effective Interpersonal Communication Skills

The Nonviolent Communication (NVC) process offers proven, effective interpersonal communication skills to help you foster healthy, satisfying relationships­with yourself and others.

Most of us have been educated from birth to compete, judge, demand and diagnose - to think and communicate in terms of what is "right" and "wrong" with people. We express our feelings as what another person has "done to us." We struggle to understand what we want or need in the moment, and to effectively ask for what we want without using unhealthy demands, threats or coercion. As founder of NVC, Marshall Rosenberg says,

"What others do may be a stimulus of our feelings, but not the cause."

Simply put, Nonviolent Communication (NVC) is a way of relating to ourselves and others, moment to moment, instead of letting the past dictate our present. By learning to identify your needs and express them powerfully, as well as to bring understanding to the needs of others, you can stay connected to what is alive in you and create a life that it is more fulfilling.

What Is NVC?

Nonviolent Communication (also called Compassionate Communication) can be used in any interaction. NVC provides practical skills in language, awareness, and using power to communicate in ways that inspire compassionate giving and receiving toward meeting the needs of all concerned. These skills provide clarity, understanding, and connection leading to mutual respect and cooperation. Whether you're caught up in long-term hostility or a new dispute, this process can help create resolutions that are satisfying for everyone involved without painful compromise or sacrifice. NVC gives concrete tools for replacing old patterns of defensiveness, resistance, and counterattack with an experience of greater harmony and power with people. Nonviolent Communication gives everyday solutions to your most perplexing communication problems.

NVC can dramatically improve your relationships by helping you focus your attention on:
- Empathic understanding of others without compromising your own values, and
- Expressing your real feelings and needs openly and honestly, yet without blame or criticism.

Learning NVC is Learning To:
- Build relationships based on compassion and understanding
- Accurately understand other people's feelings and needs
- Be assertive and flexible at the same time
- Break patterns of thinking that lead to anger and depression

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We hope this web site has helped assimilate some of the main NVC resources that are being offered so far.

Brief History of NVC

Growing up in an inner–city Detroit neighborhood Marshall Rosenberg was confronted daily with various forms of violence. Wanting to learn what he could about the causes of violence and what could be done to reduce violence he chose to study clinical psychology and received his Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology from the University of Wisconsin.

In addition to his studies in Clinical Psychology, he also studied comparative religions, the lives of peacemakers throughout history, and other research to identify what human learning contributes to violence and what human learning contributes to compassionate giving and receiving. From his research, he identified thinking, language, communication skills and means of influence that reduced violence and supported compassionate relationships. He integrated what he learned into a process he named Nonviolent Communication.

Offering Nonviolent Communication to others and seeing how it empowered people to create change nonviolently and its to contribute to compassionate ways of living, he founded the Center for Nonviolent Communication. Marshall and members of the Center for Nonviolent Communication organized and trained teams of people in the following countries to apply Nonviolent Communication where it can best support compassionate ways of resolving conflicts and fulfilling the needs of all.


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